BADASS WOMEN: MONICA LEWINSKY ON CYBER-BULLYING & SHAME

here’s a fabulous TED talk @ cyber bullying & our ever-growing culture of disassociation, cowardice & schadenfreude. Monica Lewinsky’s story will make you think… & maybe make you feel connected to something real!

bullies have existed forever…I mean, wherever the humans are, you’ll find idiocy & insecurity. & where there are insecure humans, there is going to be bullying. but, try explaining that to a broken child, scared to face another day of school.

these days, victims of bullying have it even harder than we did (hard to believe, huh?). we now have unprecedented numbers of cowardly, angry, manipulative people sitting safely behind their computer screens with one goal: to harm, attack, “take down” & humiliate the objects of their obsession. we have websites that allow multiple unscreened posts from people whose sole, sick agenda is to attack without credibility & with no chance for the victims to defend themselves.

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so if you think bullying is only child’s play, think again…it’s a totally non-at-all-brave new age called cyber-bullying, a phenomenon specific to progress. as Ms. Lewinsky says, all this progress has made personal life “public without consent, public without context.” our culture has devolved to be totally disconnected &anonymous…cyber-bullies can gutlessly shame their victims without any personal consequences. how many of us have typed out something we’d never say face to face & regretted it later? so far, thankfully, only the most psychologically disturbed of these “trolls” actually post or encourage cyber-ranting that clearly borders on the sociopathic.

however, reality tv & celebrity scandal pop culture has certainly paved the way for people to displace their self-hatred instead of working on their issues through self-examination or therapy. we have website owners who allow their own “rules” to be broken & allow victims to be clearly abused. I believe people online should be forced to live & die by the same standards we must follow in our daily face-to-face lives. right now, the web is the wild west. there is no face, no name, no accountability, no proof, no truth…& who cares! anyone can say anything!

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back we come to Ms. Lewinsky (the young, fresh faced intern…but who remembers her that way?), who understandably retreated  from the public eye after the 1998 scandal that rocked the White House & beyond.

but did any of us think  or care about what really became of her?

in her brave TED talk, Ms. Lewinsky reveals what it was like to be at the center of the first major scandal to take place in the internet age. compelling & very much worth a view!

xo

—Suki